Sunday, May 20, 2018

No kids deserve a smack but some parents deserve.

Every Saturday, we have sparring classes for my kids at the local Martial arts. Today the substitute master was handling the class and he allowed kids of same age to spar with each other (not belt grade wise).

I don't blame the master bcos when there are not many kids and also to promote the confidence of lower belt kids they allow then to spare with senior belts.

Sparring happened between a black belt guy and a red belt (near black belt) guy, apparently, the black belt guy won, the poor junior guy couldn't control his feelings and smacked the winner, which is against the rules and realized his mistake and apologized.

After the match, the father of the guy who lost the match approached the winner and said I think u deserve another smack on ur face stating the reason as u are black belt u should know that u should not go harder on junior belts.

For which the master responded that "The black belt guy actually played low, had he been hard he could have knocked ur son at the first shot".

Though the black belt guy didn't respond with his words, I asked him what was going in his mind and would like to record it here.

- Daddy (yes that black belt guy is my son) I don't take any pride in winning matches with anyone who is lower belt than me.
- I actually played very low knowing the opponent is junior to me (which is true).
- I didn't smack him back though he played against the rules since I know that it's only his anger made him hit me and I don't want to aggravate his anger.
- And I have forgiven him immediately once he asked sorry.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

The other pair

Watched a short clip about a poor boy whose slippers were broken & become of no use.
At the same time he see a young rich boy wearing a new pair of shoes, continously cleaning his shiny shoes and boarding a crowded train.

As you guessed, one of the shoe slipped from the young boy's foot while boarding and the train started.

The poor boy after initial hesitation picks the left out shoe and run behind the train to handover it to the owner, but his speed is not enough to catch the train.

Knowing, that, with one pair of shoe is of no use to anyone, the young boy throws his other shoe towards the platform, so that the poor boy can use both of them.

Imagine how many of us posses something or other, which is of no use to us at this moment but it could be of great help to others who are in need at this very moment.

Example like extra leftover food in our refrigerator, excess medicines or vitamins which we bought from costco (finally we throw it out after expiration), the book which we bought a year ago & hoping to read one day, the extra room we have in our home, the extra car we have to show off, extra pair of shoes, clothes,..etc

I just named a very few, which could make a very BIG difference in someone's life who are in need of those at this very moment.

Many thanks to the director Sarah Rozik & writer Mohammed Maher of the short film "The other pair"

Sunday, January 08, 2017

Happy Chemicals - Sad Truth

Listened to the book "Why Leaders Eat Last" and learned that there are 4 chemicals in our brain which leads to happiness.

They say that these 4 chemicals are created for different reasons and which leads to happiness.

1. Endorphins - Pain reliever
2. Dopamine - Setting goals and striking them once achieved
3. Serotonin - Making parents, partner, friends..etc proud of us
4. Oxytocin - Kind of safety feeling

The sadness is at last, they have concluded that all our happiness in life is based on the above 4 chemicals.

They lost the heart in this whole thing. I always believed happiness lies in your heart, if you do things/take decisions with the heart you will be happy irrespective of the end results.

Try to put heart first and brain (formed in combinations of chemicals) second.

Monday, May 04, 2015

Empty you is FULL of me - GOD

When we ran into any situations we often work with our mind first and our ego thinks that with our mind we can resolve all the problems, but there are often situations which our mind don't have any control, during those times we trust in GOD.

When you think you can't resolve a problem, when you admit you are vulnerable you believe in GOD. So when you let go of your EGO you feel GOD. Kabbalah  says the unfilled parts of your ego is filled with God's presence.

When you are weak, you surrender yourself and you feel GOD's strength. So comes this saying Empty you is FULL of him.

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Who am I?

Everyone must have asked this question to themselves, to their parents, to their loved ones or God. This is one of the natures unanswered question, even if you are a spiritual Guru and you had the answers, I'm sure you will be doubting it.

Yesterday, I learnt the answer for not who I am not, through a simple exercise. If you are up for it means,  then please try the below steps.

Take a piece of paper and write down about who you think you are, try to write all the negativity, like you think have big butt, you like oranges, you hate yourself, you don't have a proper vision, you are not authentic...etc..,

After you are done with your writing, fold it.

Now listen what you think you are is not you, its just your body thinks that you are imperfect, you are cruel..or whatever you have written in that piece of paper about yourselves.

You soul is completely independent. You are not who you think you are. So come out of those thoughts who you think you are and you will find the answer...

Monday, March 16, 2015

Love what?

No one's perspective of Love is the same and it changes at every stages of life.

Love is what left after being in love has burned away!!!!

Louis de Bernières Quote:
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love", which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.” 

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

How to correct wavering faith in God.

Most of us have wavering faith in God, when you are in doubt about God, ask yourself the following questions.

- Where are the doubts come from?
- Has God ever failed you in the past?
- Did God Not Promise to meet all your needs?
- Did he not give you the holy spirit to enable you to do, whatever he required?
- Is anything too hard for God?
- Is this one of those forks in the road in which your unbelief could cost you a lifetime regret?

Remember, Keep doubting God is a disaster, faith is the confident conviction.