13 is not most people's favorite number, but for me it is as of today!!

Most of us must have experienced this moment, when their kids or some known kids come  and give up all their savings and says  I want to donate all my money to some foundation. (heart.org/kidsheartchallenge foundation).

I my case 13$ is what my younger son Mounish gave me to donate, thats all he had in his account as of today - 15th Jan 2019.

So much to learn from these kind of cute heart warning incident like innocence, true heart, value of life, ..etc.

Words has Eyes!!

I had a friend in college, whose first name is same as mine. I always use to make fun of his glasses like you better watch out while walking/doing, you have too many blind spots, ..etc

And when I'm with friends we all make fun of his eye sight, since he is short sighted, he can't see things very far. But irrespective of his shortage, he is a very good cricket player, I would say he is the best bowler in our college.

It was that age, we never really cared much. Later after 15 years, when I took my 5 year old son to hospital to check his Vision, I literally cried when I learnt my 5 year old has to wear glasses to have a proper 20:20 vision.

I know for sure my son's vision impact is due to some genetic reasons or vitamin deficiency or some unknown things. But somedays I think its bcos of my attitude towards my friend, which has taught me a lesson?

Never realized at young age, how words are so powerful. Even now unknowingly I use words which can sometimes becomes real. So learning to better use proper words and also not to tease anyone or hurt anyone with even words bcos words are so powerful and it has eyes!!

You are what you do repeatedly

How to change a pattern. I have a habbit of liking the number 7 or 3, so whatever I do, I try to associate with number 7 or 3.

Like adding 3 spoons of sugar in my coffee, running 7 miles per hour on my thread mill before cool down, drinking water in multiples of 3 sips.. I  know its weird, but I assume there are few people like me who can't get rid of patterns. Infact everyone and everything has patterns.

You can notice artists have a pattern or a signature mark in all their work. Authors, Directors, Chefs, almost every professionals follow a pattern. As the saying goes Universe follows a pattern.

Now some patterns are easy to follow, but some are not. Its really impossible to start any new occassions like job, travel..etc on 3rd or 7th day of a month or parking your car always on a 3rd floor or 3rd spot or even book a room on a 3rd floor.

When I came across these words "You are what you do repeatedly" I could easily relate my doings with who I'm now.

Once I pay attention to what I do consciously I could change my patterns, though change happens in small circles, the Magic sentence "You are what you do repeatedly" helps one to make a change.

No kids deserve a smack but some parents deserve.

Every Saturday, we have sparring classes for my kids at the local Martial arts. Today the substitute master was handling the class and he allowed kids of same age to spar with each other (not belt grade wise).

I don't blame the master bcos when there are not many kids and also to promote the confidence of lower belt kids they allow then to spare with senior belts.

Sparring happened between a black belt guy and a red belt (near black belt) guy, apparently, the black belt guy won, the poor junior guy couldn't control his feelings and smacked the winner, which is against the rules and realized his mistake and apologized.


After the match, the father of the guy who lost the match approached the winner and said I think u deserve another smack on ur face stating the reason as u are black belt u should know that u should not go harder on junior belts.

For which the master responded that "The black belt guy actually played low, had he been hard he could have knocked ur son at the first shot".

Though the black belt guy didn't respond with his words, I asked him what was going in his mind and would like to record it here.

- Daddy (yes that black belt guy is my son) I don't take any pride in winning matches with anyone who is lower belt than me.
- I actually played very low knowing the opponent is junior to me (which is true).
- I didn't smack him back though he played against the rules since I know that it's only his anger made him hit me and I don't want to aggravate his anger.
- And I have forgiven him immediately once he asked sorry.

The other pair

Watched a short clip about a poor boy whose slippers were broken & become of no use.
At the same time he see a young rich boy wearing a new pair of shoes, continously cleaning his shiny shoes and boarding a crowded train.

As you guessed, one of the shoe slipped from the young boy's foot while boarding and the train started.

The poor boy after initial hesitation picks the left out shoe and run behind the train to handover it to the owner, but his speed is not enough to catch the train.

Knowing, that, with one pair of shoe is of no use to anyone, the young boy throws his other shoe towards the platform, so that the poor boy can use both of them.

Imagine how many of us posses something or other, which is of no use to us at this moment but it could be of great help to others who are in need at this very moment.

Example like extra leftover food in our refrigerator, excess medicines or vitamins which we bought from costco (finally we throw it out after expiration), the book which we bought a year ago & hoping to read one day, the extra room we have in our home, the extra car we have to show off, extra pair of shoes, clothes,..etc

I just named a very few, which could make a very BIG difference in someone's life who are in need of those at this very moment.

Many thanks to the director Sarah Rozik & writer Mohammed Maher of the short film "The other pair"

Happy Chemicals - Sad Truth

Listened to the book "Why Leaders Eat Last" and learned that there are 4 chemicals in our brain which leads to happiness.

They say that these 4 chemicals are created for different reasons and which leads to happiness.

1. Endorphins - Pain reliever
2. Dopamine - Setting goals and striking them once achieved
3. Serotonin - Making parents, partner, friends..etc proud of us
4. Oxytocin - Kind of safety feeling

The sadness is at last, they have concluded that all our happiness in life is based on the above 4 chemicals.

They lost the heart in this whole thing. I always believed happiness lies in your heart, if you do things/take decisions with the heart you will be happy irrespective of the end results.

Try to put heart first and brain (formed in combinations of chemicals) second.

Empty you is FULL of me - GOD

When we ran into any situations we often work with our mind first and our ego thinks that with our mind we can resolve all the problems, but there are often situations which our mind don't have any control, during those times we trust in GOD.

When you think you can't resolve a problem, when you admit you are vulnerable you believe in GOD. So when you let go of your EGO you feel GOD. Kabbalah  says the unfilled parts of your ego is filled with God's presence.

When you are weak, you surrender yourself and you feel GOD's strength. So comes this saying Empty you is FULL of him.